Good Day to Everyone,
I hope that everyone is doing well. Today I will discuss something that is on my mind. I hope that his blog will inspire someone today. This will be a long read and I know some of you can take a few minutes out of your busy day to read what I have to say, you spend hours a day on your phone so you can least spend a few mins to read this post. It may help or save you some day.
In this journey call “Life”, we are responsible for our own actions. We come from all walks of life and take different paths in our lives. We come to and fro. We come into someone’s life for a season, while we spend a lifetime with another. Life would be next to impossible if we don’t have someone to give us a helping hand. I can only answer for me and say that I cannot do everything on my own nor I am capable of getting through life without help from someone. We are supposed to take care of our communities and neighborhoods. The environment we live in ultimately plays an influence on our lives. We should not treat our neighbors like strangers.
I do understand that all neighborhoods are not safe and bad, If you don’t like the neighbor you’re in, then find a better community to move too. Nothing is keeping you in that situation/environment or stopping you except YOU. If you want a better neighborhood to find a way to get out of that neighborhood.
I remember when I had to share a room with someone, I was always cordial and usually talk to them for a few minutes before we went into our own respective spaces. The last roommate I had was pretty quiet and in his own world. He did his thing and I did mine. I concluded that he’s not much of a talker. I only spoke to him when I saw him but rarely had a conversation with him. I didn’t feel uncomfortable or awkward around him however I realized that I had a roommate that wasn’t really social with me as my past roommates so that was a first. I am equally responsible for not communicating or extending an olive branch out to him more despite that he was quiet. I just didn’t get the outgoing or sociable vibe from him as I previously did with other roommates. Maybe that was just his nature I don’t know. I just felt like those 7 months, it seems like we were total strangers beside saying what’s up to each other. I never felt so cold or reserved towards a neighbor before. I did say that from here on out, I can not let this happen without putting effort to talk and get to know my neighbor.
Recently when I transition into a new phase in my life, I decided that no matter what, to the best of my ability, I will be cordial, speak and chat with my neighbors whenever I see them at least a few times a week. When I moved into my new place, I was totally free of a roommate, I have my own place and space. I also have neighbors. They’re up in age however they’re very friendly people and I’ve gotten to know them.
A few weeks ago when I was coming back one night to get something to eat which I waited later than usual which was good timing as well, when I pulled up into the driveway at my apartment complex, I saw my downstairs neighbor on the ground. It was wet from the rain earlier and she slips and fell down. She was conscious but was in pain. Her caregiver also arrived in time to help me help her get up on her feet. The weird thing was she has a little dog which she was letting out to take care of her business, however, the dog didn’t bark or alert others to come see what was going on. We helped her back in her place. She had a bit of a bump on her head however she was okay. Once I and her caregiver helped her back into her place and her caregiver would help her from there, I went back upstairs to my place for the night. The next day, when I was going to do some errands, she was outdoors walking her dog. I asked chatted with her for a few mins and she was doing better. She thanked me for last night and I went on my day after checking up on her.
Today I didn’t expect this. Her caregiver came to my door and thank me for helping my neighbor that night and she gave me some chicken and chocolate as gratitude.
Now when I help people I don’t expect anything in return. I began to realize how important it is to take care of your village, be kind and cordial to your neighbors. We were who we are based on our community and environment. We are who we are based on the take in and give out.
To be best of my ability, I strive to be cordial, humble, and kind to people daily. They’re a part of my traits. These are not acts I put on during November & December then go back into regular programming of coldness and Me, Me, Me from January-Mid November. I am not a jolly holiday person. It’s not my style nor do I celebrate them. People should be able to speak and spread some love, charity, kindness, meekness, and support to our neighbors, brothers or sisters regardless of their color or ethnicity daily not just during the holidays. Most people will go back to their usual me, me, me, I, I, I and its a never ending cycle. If you’re going to be a caring and kind individual then strive to those traits daily. Don’t wait until Mid-November to December to put on kind acts. Some of us see through the phony acts. I challenge some of you to break the cycle and change your ways. Become more open and warm to your neighbors. Speak to your neighbors take a few mins out of your busy day to check and talk to your neighbors. If you can spend hours at a time on a phone then you should be able to speak to your neighbors for a few mins. You never know who they could be or how much of an influence/help they can be in your journey in life.
In closing, we are not only responsible for our own actions we are also responsible for taking care our community and look after our neighbors because we always need one another at some point and no way we can go through life alone. We must Learn to love, help, show meekness to thy neighbors.